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Radvent 4 - Caring

(I’m totally behind on Radvent, so allow me to catch up or, you know, drop me, haha!  The Radvent posts I’m doing are inspired by prompts and thoughts over at Princess Lasertron’s blog.  I do them each year.)

What are other people around you taking care of?

I am a hermit who leaves my house as rarely as possible, but today I’ve been watching my husband shrink wrap our windows for winter.  He’s owned this house for about 18 years now, which seems so crazy to me since I could only start to realistically think about buying a house right before I met him in 2006.  I really love that even though our house is tiny, he values it for what it is:  his home.  He is always doing something nice to the house, whether it’s painting the window frames or sweeping the leaves out of our tiny patio (which he does pretty much whenever he’s home.)  It’s very sweet to see how much pride he has in the place.

What are two things you started caring about this year and why?

We already covered voting and my health, so I guess next on the list is babies, and whether or not to have any.  I have never, ever been the kind of person who wanted to grow up, get married and have babies, so I never ever expected I’d start thinking about it so much at any point.  But ultimately, it’s a decision you do have to make at some point (before it makes itself), and it’s pretty hard to ignore when everyone around you suddenly has kids and your relationships with them and their families change because of it.  (Not to mention that I think often of going back to school for a career change but also feel like the kid decision affects that decision a lot, so everything is stalled.)  I feel left out a lot lately, although I clearly remember one of my friends telling me right after her daughter was born that she was really conscious of not being a member of the single people’s club anymore, too!  It goes both ways, for sure.  Anyway, I suddenly care about it, and what to do about it, and never dreamed I would.

Can Minecraft count for my second one?  haha! And can I point out that having a baby would really cut into my gaming time?  At least, it would until they were big enough to teach them how to play Portal!

List things you don’t give a shit about and then throw them away.

* Self-titled social media gurus and all the surprisingly anti-social bullshit that comes along with them.

* Actually, anyone who calls themselves a “guru.”  If you call yourself a guru, I will automatically assume you’re a useless windbag.

* Honestly?  American politics.  The longer I live here, the more crazy it seems over there and I find myself swinging from “This is awful!  Someone should do something!” to “I’m so glad I left!  Good luck!”

* Twitter.